Category Archives: JD

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important”- Arthur Conan Doyle

Since big things in life are difficult to achieve, for me it’s better and more satisfying, to focus on the little ones. It’s not only trying to achieve small goals, it’s also a constant research of every little source of happiness. We should educate our eyes (and our hearts) to see beauty, to recognise kindness, to feel positive people and appreciate them. No need to say that my life coach is JD, who seems to be always in a telepathic contact with me; yesterday I was desperately looking for a reason to smile and he inspired me saying: “It’s the little things in life that make the difference. Choose to be happy”.

So I decided to write down a list of 10 little things that usually make difference through my day:

  1. Morning/night texts: they make me feel loved.
  2. Random acts of kindness: they restore my hope in a world with better people.
  3. Encouraging messages from my wonderful friends: they give me strength.
  4. A new book to read or a new story on my mind: a new world where I can refuge in.
  5. Listening to my favourite songs: music is always a blessing for my soul.
  6. Learning a new thing: learning is not only for students, we must improve our knowledge in order to be more open-minded.
  7. Finding a tasty gluten free product or recipe: because in order to have a performing mind, we should have an healthy (and happy) body as well.
  8. Low pain day: never take your health for granted.
  9. Going to bed with no task undone.
  10. Him.

And you? Do you have some little pleasures that make your day better?

TRACK OF THE DAY: The little Things- Toto

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple”- Dr.Seuss

Lack of inspiration today (too much chocolate, I think) so here’s a short, but meaningful post.

I thought that the most difficult question to answer to, was  “Are you happy?” until JD started asking; “If you could do one thing in the world right now, what would it be?”.

I panicked. I poured out my huge bucket of wishes, trying to choose the most important of them, but they started jamming all at once to be noticed and be picked up, so I had a crowd of desires and no answer. Be healthy again, so I could work, earn money and be independent. Be rich, so I could cure myself and cut off my abusive relationship. Be able to travel, so I can fly away from this life I hate. Be younger, so things could be easier. Be… be… be…

So, in the end, I typed the easiest and most instinctive answer: “Kiss you”.

TRACK OF THE DAY: How will I know?- Whitney Houston


“People leave strange little memories of themselves behind when they die”― Haruki Murakami

My laptop suddenly died with a lot of unsaved stuff in it and I’m currently writing on a borrowed computer which is probably power supplied by dinosaurs, but as it’s said: it’s better than nothing.

It has probably been a good thing for you all, since I had a terrible time, suffering chronic pain, frustration and an insane amount of emotional abuse. It hasn’t got better to be honest, but my unwinged angels from this side and from the opposite side of the pond, supported me and both told and demonstrated me that I’m worth loving. Whenever I feel like complaining about how it’s always raining on me, I should remember that I have big umbrellas, some of them are even limited edition. And JD, well, JD always plays a big part in my happiness; I even finally found the answer to the question “Describe him in two words”. I’ve never been able to choose among his infinite qualities, but now I know how to portray him: “nothing compares”.

I read a lot of books as usual, I indulged in Sylvia Plath’s works and that’s something I should avoid, above all when I’m depressed, if I don’t want to end with the head in the oven like her without having written anything notable.

I thought a lot about death lately, suicide, of course, but also about what happens to our beloved stuff once we die. I was in a thrift shop where a friend of mine volunteeers and a woman came with a garbage bag full of collectibles, knick-knack and books, saying that her mom died, so she had to make space in the house. I looked at the object thinking about which sentimental value they may had for their owner. We only see a little value decorative item, but maybe it was a present of an ancient lover, the souvenir of a long desired journey, the memory of a funny trip. And it’s sad to think that one day my kids will do the same; they will put my beloved books, my cherished vinyls, my precious signed CD and all my stuff in a black trash bag and bring it to a thrift shop or throw it into the bin.

So, in case someone will put their hands on the drumsticks JD gave to me, please, treasure them, not only because they’re the only pair used for Heartless video, but because they’re my magic wands: I hold them whenever I feel shit and my mood changes because they say “you’re loved!”. They mean more than what they are, love them as I did. Thanks.

TRACK OF THE DAY: Good Riddance- Green Day

“The only way to help yourself is to help others”-Elbert Hubbard

A few post ago I wrote about the commitment of Food for the Hungry in the hardest places of the world, talking about children sponsorship and how important it is since you can change their lives, but also their families’ and communities’.

I talked about how JD is using his visibility and popularity to spread the world about this issue, he even gave the chance to people to win his drum kit if they were involved in sponsorship or in simply giving any kind of help to the project. The community of his sponsored child Evaride, graduated out of poverty, so JD is trying to get the same amazing result for other villages even if the bond with his child is still so strong that he even named his band after him.

I am the proud sponsor of a seven years old girl from Rwanda, called Divine. She likes drawing and her task before school is to provide clean water for her family. I can’t show her face due to privacy, but I can assure she’s a pretty girl with a smart gaze. I was beyond excited when I got her first letter with the sketch of her hand and honestly at first we think it is us to help them, but to be frank the biggest change happens into us, the sponsors. We get in touch with a reality we often only see on tv and that looks anonymous, almost fictional. Getting to know a child, their family and community, put things in perspective and helps us to understand that with a dollar a day, we can produce a big change in their life. The help is not only economic: having someone who trusts in them, who’s interested in their progress at school or in life, who remembers them in their prayers, is very important for the emotional and spiritual growth of these kids.

They become a big part of our lives, they make us rich, they are our family members. Well, if there is a negative side of sponsoring a child, is that letter take so long to get to them and vice versa, unfortunately many villages are in remote zones, hard to reach, so it may take a three months between a letter and another.


At the moment sponsorship is for US citizens only, but check this link to know more and to get involved

                         Sponsor a Child in Nyagihanga Today!

TRACK OF THE DAY: Africa- Toto

“Nothing can be done without hope and confidence” Helen Keller

Please watch the video before going on reading. It will explain this serious issue better than me and images are more effective than words.

I’ve always been fairly distrustful on charities because I’ve always asked myself if that money would have gone where needed or just wasted, but since JD started being involved with Food4theHungry, a non-profit organization that aims to end world hunger, I could see how serious this organisation is and how effective. So I visited their site and my trust was restored: their aim is to end poverty one community at a time and since the first embryonic stage of society is family, their purpose is to help families to have means and competence  and to develop their skills to grow up in order to be able to help community. It’s amazing to see how with a single action, you can be solving multiple problems!

Food4The Hungry projects are many and all important, you can:

    • Sponsor a child. With the small amount of $35 each month you can change not only the life of your sponsored child, but also their family and community. Infact through your sponsorship, you’ll help Food for the Hungry assist your child’s entire community to provide food, a better education, clean water and medical treatment to its children. Please notice that at the moment sponsoring a child is only for the US, but on the site there’s a form you can fill if you life elsewhere.
    • Help unsponsored children have opportunity for food, clothes, and education.
    • Help disaster survivors receive shelter and food immediately.
    • Provide FH community members with tools and everything they need to grow trees and training to help families grow vegetables in a harsh climate.
    • Provide school supplies
    • Give the gift of cool, clear and clean water to a community through water purifying packets or filters.

But one of the most important thing is that this charity brings hope even in the hardest places and demonstrates that if you are actually passionate to make a change and to actually try to affect people’s lives in a positive way, you can, even if you’re a common person.

As regarding JD, people consider him a celebrity, but he’s just an ordinary guy with an extraordinary heart. And it’s a very good thing he turned into an influencer, because it’s important to shift his audience’s attention on things bigger than his work. That’s why he and Jeff Gilbert made this journey to Rwanda and made this video so we can to learn more about Josh’s plan who invited his fan base into his astounding work with Food4The Hungry. So in March, Josh visited Rwanda to meet Evaride, the child he personally sponsors through FH. His journey was documented as the first part of the documentary series “The Hardest Places.” This video will be used in a full social media campaign to raise money and awareness for FH.

I wish I wasn’t unemployed due to my health, I’d love to be part of this big project and destinate the money I spend for my meds and cures for a higher plan. So the only support I can give is to spread the word because if JD used his social influence, I could use blogging.

Please get involved, share this and feel free to ask me anything about this project.

And yet HOPE remains.







“Be the change you wish to see in the world”

Please notice that the quote above is not from Ghandi: it’s just a short recap to reduce to a slogan his deeper tought about how we mirror the world and that we need to start a long path of inner instrospection and hard work before making a difference. If you’re interested, here it is the part where this quote comes from:

“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do”

But to me the point is the message not the messenger, so here’s what this post is about. Each time I read a newspaper or the news online, the only thing that strikes my attention is how much violence there’s in the world, at any level. Racial hate, terrorism, but also simply the guy killing his girlfriend or the father who exterminates his family. Grief doesn’t need big numbers, it’s a matter of names and lives. All all this makes me eager of positive things and positive figures and now you get to whom I was thinking about.

Yesterday it was JD’s 25th birthday. I think that special extraordinary people like him, who care for others with so much warmth and kindness, make such a wonderful difference. I hope he knows how much I “love” him. Honestly the world  would be such a nicer place if everybody was like him and please don’t ask me what makes him so outstanding, because I don’t know where to start from. “Special” is the only thing that comes to my mind.

Hope you all have your own lifesaver to hang on when the light goes off, I wish to mine a life full of smiles, fullfilled dreams, goals set, friends, new expreiences, surprises and neverending joy. Please, J, never ever change.

TRACK OF THE DAY: Creep-Radiohead

“Arts are our capacity to make” Aristotle


I’d like to continue last post’s issue because it’s important to me. As I said, I consider arts as therapies, I feel better when I write or do something creative and I switch the world off whenever I listen to a song or I start a new book.

I’m currently unemployed due to my health conditions and it’s difficult to get some translations jobs to do from home, but I still think it’s important to invest the very little money I have in art. Here you can see my Wreck this journal when I haven’t started it already, whose motto is “to create is to destroy”. It’s a journal with some tasks you have to follow, tasks that really involve weirdest way to create, as “Rub here with dirt” or “Sew this page” because the aim of this journal is not having a beautiful perfect piece of art, but bringing out people’s creativity, overcome their limits or the fear of not doing well. That’s why, in my opinion, Keri Smith ironically dedicated it to perfectionists all over the world. I love this idea that the creative process is more important than the end product, so I shared it immediately. It will be very helpful to distract me from pain or depression (in the end social medias are frustrating, with all those people having fun or having a normal life) and it would be a good company during my hospital shit or in the doctors’ waiting room. I will share my progress (oh, how interesting, right?) posting finished pages here.

The song I chose for this post is inspired to one of Frida Khalo’s pieces of art. Chris Martin said in an interview that he christened this song and the album “Viva la Vida” after he saw the phrase on a painting by the Mexican artist. He explained: “She went through a lot of shit, of course, and then she started a big painting in her house that said ‘Viva la Vida.’ I just loved the boldness of it.”


So again, I’m back to JD’s question: why art? Because creating lifts souls, because any kind of art makes the world a better place to live in.

TRACK OF THE DAY:  Viva la vida- Coldplay