This post has been inspired by a thought of a friend of mine about children who are not encouraged in pursuing a career in the arts because arts don’t play the bills. She was fond of music, but she preferred following her parent’s advice, so she studied, had a brilliant career and now she works for a corporate that, according to her, pays her bills, but doesn’t fulfill her heart.
Yes, parents must teach their kids to stay grounded, because not always dreams and hobbies are enough to pay our bills, but they also should encourage them to find what passion stir their soul and pursue it. And they also have to pay attention not to project their failed dreams onto their kids: there’s nothing worse than a pushy parent.
On the other hand, they shouldn’t force their children to do every sport, take music, lessons, attend art or theatre classes. That’s too much. You don’t know what your kid wants, let them choose, let them free of change their minds endless times, but always be there to support them and to help them to react to failure.
For us it’s the same: even if we are adult, we don’t have to live our lives according to other people’s expectations or social conformance (“you’re a mum, you can do/act/dress like that” for example). I broke up with a group of good friends because they only saw me tied to my role, they found weird any passion and were supportive only about home/family related stuff.
Don’t be like that, never let your brain idle and learn more about anything you may like. Be passionate about something and don’t be tired to show it off even if “society” doesn’t approve. Life is too short to be anything but happy: we are all special in this world and nobody shouldn’t die with some music still in them.
TRACK OF THE DAY: Dreams – The Cranberries